Welcoming a child into the world can be one of the most magical experiences that we have as human beings. After all, it’s a miracle of life! But there is one aspect of being a new parent that we aren’t talking about enough. That’s the mental turmoil that many experience weeks, months, and even years postpartum. Wondering how to deal with postpartum anxiety? Wondering if it’s more than the baby blues? Maybe postpartum depression? Let’s dive in.
How to deal with postpartum anxiety
Postpartum anxiety is a form of postpartum depression. It can leave new parents feeling worried, fearful, and even paranoid. It’s become even more common in recent years. We are coming off of the height of the pandemic. The world of technology that we live in exasperates it. Rates of postpartum depression rose three-fold during COVID-19. In this blog we discuss how to help postpartum anxiety.
Signs and symptoms
Signs of postpartum anxiety can manifest in a variety of ways. If you think you are developing postpartum anxiety, check for symptoms. There are physical symptoms as well as mental. Common signs and symptoms of postpartum anxiety include:
- Fatigue
- Difficulty concentrating
- Changes in appetite
- Feelings of worthlessness or guilt
- Feelings of restlessness or agitation
- Irritability and mood swings
- Rapid heartbeat or palpitations
- Muscle tension
- Panic attacks
- Intrusive thoughts or worries that can be difficult to control
- Separation fears
- Racing thoughts and difficulty sleeping
- Nightmares or night terrors
- Physical symptoms such as headaches, stomach aches, or chest pain
- Avoidance of certain situations or activities related to the baby
- Exaggerated startle response
- Obsessive-compulsive behavior (OCD)
- Becoming anxious about the baby’s health and development
Is it “baby blues” or a serious condition?
A new baby is a major lifestyle change. It is only natural to feel out-of-sorts, sleep-deprived, and even a little sad during the first few weeks. Unwanted comments and judgement from family members doesn’t help! It’s important to look out for unhappiness feelings beyond the two-week mark. Pay attention to excessive worry, dread, nausea, rapid heartbeat and trouble concentrating. Pay attention if you have hot flashes, changes in appetite or sleep, or other symptoms out of the ordinary. You’ll want to alert your healthcare provider.
Is it anxiety or postpartum depression?
Postpartum depression is intense feelings of sadness and even disinterest in the child. Postpartum anxiety results in feelings of intense and uncontrollable worry and dread. While both terms are used interchangeably, they are not the same. Postpartum anxiety is a form of postpartum depression. But, they are two separate diagnoses. Both conditions impact people in the first year following childbirth. PPA can also manifest as a form of obsessive-compulsive disorder.
How common is postpartum anxiety?
It is often confused and reported as postpartum depression. Postpartum anxiety is a different condition. It is actually more common than postpartum depression. It’s reported in 10% of all new mothers. Half of women with postpartum depression, including postpartum anxiety, go undiagnosed. According to NAMI, perinatal mood and anxiety disorders affect many women. While the exact prevalence is unknown, some estimates say as many as 1 million moms face it each year in the U.S. alone.
My own journey with anxiety
I take medicine for depression and anxiety and started years ago when I was in a crappy relationship. I did everything I knew to help myself- yoga, running, journaling, seeing a therapist. In the end, I decided I needed more help.
I decided to stop taking the medication when I was first trying to get pregnant. The result: I didn’t sleep for three days. I had insomnia, anxiety, and relentless crying. After weighing the pros and cons, reading the research, and meeting with specialists, I got back on it. I stayed on it through both of my pregnancies. There were risks, but I made a decision to do what was best for my mental health so I could better care for my babies. It was the right choice. I had a history of anxiety and was at risk for developing a postpartum anxiety disorder.
I share this to break down the stigma that goes along with taking meds. No matter what you do, there are many treatment options for postpartum anxiety attacks. If you take medication, know that you aren’t weak or didn’t try hard enough or meditate enough or exercise enough. At the end of the day, I’m glad I put my pride aside and accepted help. I hope you will, too.
Treatments for postpartum anxiety
The treatments for postpartum anxiety and depression are pretty similar. Treatment options depend on the severity of the condition. This ranges from therapy and support groups to lifestyle adjustments. Of course there’s also medication and herbal remedies. The following are treatment options:
- Seek professional help. Talk to a mental health professional such as a psychiatrist, psychologist, or therapist. Find someone who specializes in postpartum depression and anxiety. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) has also been known to help.
- Ask for support or find a support group. Surround yourself with family and friends who can provide emotional and practical support.
- Take medication. Antidepressants and benzodiazepines can ease severe postpartum anxiety and depression. The long-term use of antidepressants and psychosomatic drugs can create other side effects. I took my medicine when I was pregnant because the benefits outweighed the risks for me. Check with your doctor. Your doctor may prescribe selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs).
- Make time for self-care. Take time out of your day to do things that make you feel good. Try exercising, getting enough sleep, and eating nutritious meals.
- Learn to recognize triggers. Identify activities or situations that might trigger your anxiety. Take steps to avoid them if possible or prepare yourself with coping strategies.
- Practice mindfulness and relaxation techniques. Mindfulness meditation and deep breathing exercises can help manage anxiety.
- Stay connected. Reach out to other moms in similar situations for support and understanding. Joining a postpartum depression or anxiety support group can also be helpful.
- Take care of your body. Exercise and get enough sleep. Eat a healthy diet. Avoid alcohol and drugs. This can reduce anxiety symptoms.
Anxiety after breastfeeding
In this post it’s important I mention my anxiety after breastfeeding. With my first son, I stopped breastfeeding around 14 months postpartum. After a week, I was feeling anxious (more so than normal for me). After talking with friends, I learned they, too, had this same experience. This was likely due to the drastic change in hormones when your milk supply drops. It helped a lot to know that this was a “thing,” but no one told me it could happen.
When I weaned my 2-year-old I wondered if it might happen again. It did. But this time I knew it was a season and that it would end, and therapy and acupuncture helped me navigate that time.
Resources for support of postpartum anxiety
If you need more help on how to deal with postpartum anxiety, below I have listed some resources. Please know that you are not alone in this journey that is motherhood. What you are feeling is likely very common. Resources are available to help.
- Postpartum Support International
- Anxiety and Depression Association of America
- Psychology Today
- Check on Mom
Resources local to Louisiana
- ARC (Advanced, Reliable, Comprehensive) Counseling & Wellness. They offer services in Louisiana, as well as in Texas and California.
- Louisiana Perinatal Quality Collaborative
Motherhood and mental health Instagram accounts
- Libby Ward – @diaryofanhonestmom
- Dr. Ashurina Ream – @psychedmommy
- Inna Kashani – @motherhoodtherapy
- Anna Marquardt – @annamarq_
- Alice Pickering – @dralicepsyd
- Bryce Reddy – Mom Support
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